We had a plan.

We had a plan. 

Matt and I were excited about the idea of having children before we even got married. We had a plan, we would buy a house or I would obtain my Master’s degree-whichever came first and then we would be ready for children. After being married for three years, August 2013 came and we became home owners! It was “go time.” We had a plan. We discussed our plan with my doctor and we were ready to go. 

Time passed with no results so we consulted my doctor. There were medications we could try, so we did. May 2014 came around and I graduated with my Master’s degree in education. We thought, maybe it was stress. Still no positive results. In October 2014, we needed a new plan because the medication was not working. We began seeing a specialist at Fertility and Endocrine Associates. There were different medications we could try, so we had a new plan. Our plan now consisted of medications, shots, hospital procedures and surgeries we could try, so we did.

In April 2015, the plan worked! After the emotional toll, the financial strain and hard work, we were pregnant! Our bliss only lasted eight and a half short weeks. The worst day of our life was May 28. There was no plan for a heartbreak like this. 

After another surgery and a cell analysis we learned the miscarriage was a chromosomal defect that we could do nothing about (neither of us were carriers) and it had no relation to the fertility problems we were having. We started medication and shots again. This rounded out our six tries of the suggested plan. Another negative test result

Procedures, shots, medications and surgeries cost money and insurance paid very little. In July 2015, Matt got a second job cleaning dialysis centers and I got a second job at an ice cream shop. At least we had a plan.

The ice cream shop closed  without warning after I worked there for less than three months. My next venture is currently in progress, I tutor students outside of school. (I still have openings!) The only plan we had was to pay off the balances with the doctors and the hospitals.  We stopped using medication. We worked really hard and dreamed of that “As soon as we stopped trying, we got pregnant” storybook ending to our strife.  We had no such luck.

Our hearts stayed broken. We visited our specialist on October 28^th 2015 and were presented the option of a new plan. We cannot make this plan happen on our own. Although we have paid the hospital and doctor bills, we spent our savings to do it. Our next option is using invitro fertilization (IVF) to get pregnant. IVF costs at least $15, 000.00 and our paychecks-even with tutoring after work, cannot handle this abrupt cost.  To begin the process of IVF, we must have $10,123 to start treatment.

That does not include the $2,000 to $3,000 for the medication and injections to prepare my body for the embryo transfer. We are hard workers, if it was possible to work for this sum within a time frame to make it a possibility, we would do it. We’ve sold several things and cut back on everything. We are also terrible at asking for help. This is causing physical pain admitting we can’t do this alone. 

In an effort to raise money to make IVF a possibility, we are making and selling fleece blankets, embroidery floss bracelets and fundraising t-shirts. Every cent of sales will be used for our IVF fund that we will also be contributing to with money from tutoring and saving.

Any donation is welcome, just know that we appreciate it more than words can describe. Here is the link to our YouCaring.com page.

The blankets are $30.00 with your choice of many prints and colors. Bracelets are $3.00- $5.00 with your choice of color and charm. T-shirts are $15, just let me know what size and how many! T-shirts are being provided by Kratz at a discount rate with all profits going to our fund for IVF. 


The good news is, my doctor has shared that because I am young and have gotten pregnant on my own, conceiving in one round of IVF is not guaranteed but my chances are high. 

After over two years of plans not working out and giving it all we’ve got, we need your help for a better chance of growing our family and having a baby.